I am writing to see if I have any solid foundation to stand on. I quit my 8 year long job last Tuesday after years of working under my boss's wife, who holds the title of "Office Manager" for a Dental Office in Indiana. I, as well as my other co-workers have endured countless times of verbal, mental and even "minor" physical abuse. She is very hot-tempered and not a "people person". she is constantly blowing up and biting our heads off and then 2 minutes or 2 days later, coming back to say how sorry she is. She feels and actually has stated that she can do anything she wants because "she owns the place". Her physical abuse consists of a jab in the arm or the back of the head if you make a mistake or just plain do something she doesn't like. A truly painful example of her inability to deal with employees occurred last January when my Father committed suicide. I got the call at work and one afternoon and in my state of shock, still thought to call our 2nd office to let my boss or her know that I had to leave immediately. (We have 2 offices that the Doctor would split his time between. On the days he is there, some of us stay at the other office to do office work, etc.) When I called, my co-worker and good friend informed me that she (my Office Mgr.) was at an appointment but not to worry, that she would track her down and let her know what had happened. She was just concerned for me (my friend, of course). So I left the office to face what would be one of the most difficult times in my life. Before I even got home, my cell phone rang and it was my Boss's wife. She proceeded to let me know the "chain of command" for requesting time off and that by telling my co-worker, instead of her that I needed to leave, I was technically "abandoning my job" and not acceptable and that she could let me go for that, but she was going to excuse it this time. At that time, I had been on the job for about 7 years. I had definately "payed my dues". Then, 2 days after my Father's service (less than 1 full week of time off) she called me at home to see if I would come back to work earlier than I had originally requested off!! (I only took 2 weeks off to deal with this trauma!!)
Her tantrums continued as usual...pen throwing, door slamming, threatening us with our paychecks...too much to keep mentioning.
PLEASE!!!!!SOMEONE TELL ME I AM JUSTIFIED AND THAT I DO NOT HAVE TO ENDURE THIS TYPR OF TREATMENT IN THE WORKPLACE!!!
Liberated in Indiana