Damion Has A Sister!

In my thirtysome years in management I have worked for assorted demonic delitants but none the caliber of my current evil master. This woman is condescending,discounting, obtuse and dismissive. These are her good points.Her response to a reasonable question is "Tell them (clients)it's none of their business!" When I pose a logical and reasonable, legitimate response hers is essentially, "Because I say so." I am a positive person who looks for the good in people because what does the alternative get you? Suspect and bitter? She simply tells me that I am naive. Essentially it's her way or the highway. I am over 50 and held economic hostage by this toxic workplace. I used to wake up early and think, "What can I get done today?" Now it's sleep in as late as you can and pray on the drive to work. Am I naive to think that what you do 10 hours a day, 6 days a week can give you joy?

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Rev.Belevit (06/15/2006) just remember brother, life is too short to work in a place you hate. It's never really the job that sux, it's just the people you work with. Rev.Belevit (06/15/2006) ...Sister..whooops M. in Wisconsin (06/15/2006) Bad bosses must be epidemic in the Badger State! First, start a plan of action to get out. I recommend a strategic plan with measurable goals and objectives. For example, if you want to network, list getting in volved in the community, handing out a business card at a chamber of commerce event, and putting out feelers for jobs as our objects - try to do new a week. Seek balance in your life with ample sleep, physical activity, time with friends and healthy eating. Take a multi vitamin. Escape with a good book, movie or short road trip on weekends. Pamper yourself. At work, try to anticipate the boss' moods, based on her past reactions. And make sure your client's know you are following orders - her orders. avid reader (06/15/2006) 10 hours a day, 6 days a week? Wha...? Why are you working so much? singapore sling (06/15/2006) A most curious question indeed. That's 20 hours over. Spencer (06/15/2006) To answer your question, I think you are naive to put in 60 hours at a place where Damian's sister works. There are jobs out there that people can be happy at. I OF COURSE don't have one of those, but al my teachers in high school told me they were out there. ha ha ha BoneyardDiva (06/16/2006) I really hope you get out of there soon. Perhaps you can make a lateral move, roll your 401k over to the new employer, & enjoy the years up until retirement. milkmaidinwisconsin (06/16/2006) OK I get that I am a worklaholic! In truth I was making a point though I DO work 50-55 hours a week. Despite all the well meaning philosophical fodder I have economic realities to deal with. Walking away right now is not an alternative. What I need help with is cognitive coping suggestions based on shared experience. HELP! M. in Wisconsin (06/16/2006) I feel compelled to help a fellow Badger. There are a number of books out there on how to deal with a bad boss. Try an Amazon search. There are also some books on office politics you may want to read, including, I think, one called "How to Deal with Difficult People." You cannot change your boss, but you can change how you deal with your boss and his/her effect on you. You may also want to locate a Yahoo group that deals with workplace issues. These are online support groups, much as this site is. Try some of the links on this Web site; the ones I have visited were pretty good. I had a hard time with the bullying site, though. Bad bosses are everywhere and the problem of dealing with them is universal. Good luck! milkmaidinwisconsin (06/16/2006) Thanks, M. in Wisconsin. Maybe there's something in the dairy products? milkmaidinwisconsin (06/18/2006) Well,it would seem that other than telling me I am a fool to work long hours and the concrete suggestions of my co-Wisconsinite that NOBODY else has much to offer in the way of help. That's disappointing! M. in Wisconsin (06/18/2006) Well, I think the first thing you must do is secure your job. Make sure the boss has no reason to let you go. SInce you consider yourself an ecomic hostage, this is very important. Then, while you have a right to be angry with the situation you are in, work on ways to let the frustration go. This will not be easy. But you cannot let it hurt you. Next, as pointed out above, seek balance in your life and solace in your friendships. Develop an exit strategy that includes what used to be called "___k-you money" by setting some money aside for a worse-case scenario. Apply for other jobs, but consider your market. In urban areas, people who are upwardly mobile seldom stay at jobs for more than a few years. In smaller towns, these people may be viewed as job hoppers. There are ways to defuse a wacked-out boss. Check them out immediately! POST A COMMENT »