When encountering workplace jerks in public, one must be aware that they will attempt to get you to lose your temper. It comes from a strong desire to be seen as the victim, not the victimizer.
Sometimes using the Total Ignore, described by best-selling author Robert Ringer in such best-selling books as Winning Through Intimidation and Looking Out For #1, will work. At the same time, truly hyperaggressive workplace bullies (especially women) will use passive aggressive techniques like sneaking up on you in public and trying to make "innocent" small talk, even when you both know they or their mob never lost an opportunity to attack or malign you.
This is when you must use the Power Avoid. While I don't advocate running away from a bully or other personal problems, frustrating their efforts to get your goat will expose them to stalking and harassment charges, civil suits, and deny them the pleasure of giving you a hard time.
I've played hide and seek in grocery stores, jumped into a side alley they dared not go into, driven away in my vehicle and then observed their consternation from afar.
Believe me, it works. And it makes you feel sooooo good!
I'd like to hear any questions any comments you might have...
dontask 0 :) (07/31/2009) where is the post???????:)
the confessor (07/31/2009) Repeatedly attempted to post this to no avail-finally took today.
anonymous (07/31/2009) Most bullies encountered are of repugnican bent.
HaveADamnNiceDay (07/31/2009) I should say I've been lucky enough to never actually run into any former workplace bullies. I think I'd pretend not to know them if I did run into them again, or just forget their name...
them:"Hey Have A Damn! Long time no see, you slacker!"
Me: "Hm? I'm sorry, have we met?"