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Women in workplace Written by Female Fed on 08/09/201315 years in private sector and 15 years in public sector. I am intelligent, w/advanced degree, thin, well dressed and reasonably attractive. I am DONE with women in the workplace. It pains me to say it since I grew up in the 60s and 70s and was a feninist. I am sick of their, whining, jealousy, stupidity, unprofessionalism, backstabbing, etc. Give me a male, even if he is a sexist.Read 2 Replies   |   Add a Reply
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Posted by Really2?! on 08/13/2013:
I see. Interesting post. Hmmm, I agree to an extent but however in most cases, it is funny to me how some people can make comments concerning other people in work situations as though they are the victims in the midst of the situations and are actually the very culprits who causes hostility, chaos and havoc in job environments with lies, jealousy and hate. Then sit back and take no responsibility for it...Sad and Miserable people is what they are called, because happy people who are content with their lives do not constantly keep up nonsense and BS on jobs and then blame it on other people...

Posted by PeonWithATude on 08/15/2013:
Not sure I really understand your complaint .... of course it was as general statement without any facts. In fact it was an "opinion" that the females were jealous. What did they say, when did they say it? Have you ever been around a man who said a derogatory comment about ANY other person in the office, well I have, and it was negative, so was he "jealous" possibly not but he did mean to insinuate that that person did not know what they were doing, so that is possibly a way to make them more superior or was the statement the truth? So, my point is that both male and females in the office make "comments" about co-workers, most of the time behind their backs, and believe me I have a lot of complaints about my co-workers, but I am not naive to think that what I am saying about them, they are probably saying the same about me. The main issue is that the statements should be work related and if they are justified then why is the supervisor not addressing the issues? In general, there is so much "favoritism" in a work place and do we not all say it is who you know? Well if those two statements are true then possibly your co-workers are not jealous but actually stating facts. Obviously, you do not think very highly of these people and are making judgments, what motivates your statements?

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We didn't do anything wrong! Written by wage slave on 04/27/2013My friend and I ran for union office last year because the old president never came to work. No communication came from the union and most people felt they were paying for nothing. We won and the old president and his friends have made my life a living hell since. During our first officers meeting 2 of his friends yelled at us for running. They insisted that we sign off on the books for our tax returns without an audit. The other officers were so nasty they refused to give us grievance forms or letterhead. When I printed papers I was working on they would grab them and look at them. The old president sent out letters to our national office saying how incompetent we are. 1 of the current officer sent out a letter maligning us but it had so many spelling mistakes in it, it was laughable. She was one of the 2 officers who yelled at us. These 2 sweethearts have refused to represent anyone or give their time to any project. I am tired of fighting these idiots. They are tearing this Union apart and no one seems to care.Read 1 Replies   |   Add a Reply
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Posted by walking by on 04/29/2013:
I care! I know what it feels like to be let down by a local that is supposed to represent you. Unfortunately years ago some dunderheads took this particular local private and it became their own personal club. Long ago both sides ignored the importance of the Weingarten Rights, they reduced themselves to a so/so bargaining unit and would only investigate anti union actions. Would not help or represent me while i was on industrial and short time disability. Their reasoning: My automatic union dues withdrawal had stopped during work injury pay. Had no control over that. Parted ways with them years ago.

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I hate my co-worker Written by pittsburger83 on 12/21/2012I just started my job 3 months ago. At first everything was great. Good money, close to future looked bright. Until the co-worker from hell decided she wanted to make my life miserable. Every day she talks to me like I'm an idiot and double checks everything I do. I have been trying to tolerate her, but that was until yesterday. I sat down with my boss and he advised that she told him I don't know what I'm doing, when in fact I've been doing my job just fine. I know more about computer programs than this old bitch does. For goodness sakes, they use Corel Word Perfect which is older than dirt!!!!!!! I'm tired of her and tired of her shit. I'll be damned if I lose my job over her!!!Read 1 Replies   |   Add a Reply
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Posted by tired of jerks at work on 12/23/2012:
I found slashing tires a great eye opener..they kind of get the hint that if someone goes to that extreme all sort of things can happen from there...stand your ground

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My boss isn't so bad, but my coworkers...... Written by Forkeh on 06/16/2012Okay, so I work in a restaurant. My boss really isn't so bad. He's kind of a nice guy. He works hard. My only real complaint is that he won't stand up to problem employees, because we've had ex employees sue in the past; he's a bit gun shy with the firing. This is a problem because we have a handful of absolutely incompetent workers. I hate it. These people can't do the simplest damned task. It's not like their jobs are hard; no brain power required to mop a floor. It's not like their shifts are long, maybe 5 hours? But I've spent the last two years at this damned job cleaning up their messes. It's gotten even worse since I was promoted to supervisor, because it's not directly my problem. One of them has a real problem with female authority (I'm a woman). I get so much freakin' lip from that girl, it's ridiculous. Don't start cursing under your breath about how much of a bitch I am (yes I can hear you) when I'm just telling you to do your job! You don't get paid to stand around. You work in a restaurant, you have to clean, get over it! Jesus. I've absolutely had it with this damned job, and my useless crew. Where are all the people who want a job and put in at least a minimalist effort? I know minimum wage sucks for the crew, but damn, what happened to work ethic? You take a job, you do your job, regardless of what you're paid. Don't like it, quit!!!!!!!!!!! And oh jeeze, some of I guess you'd call them? Other supervisors. Talk about leading by example. All day standing around doing nothing, when you could be helping with something. Playing with your phone? Give me a break! And then you have the audacity to chew me out, for things that didn't get done on my shift (I close almost every shift), are you really serious? I'm sorry, even when my crew isn't being incompetent, are we really supposed to get all of the food prep and cleaning done, as well as work through the busiest parts of the day....really? What exactly is it that your opening crew does, besides set up and serve the few customers that trickle in? Maybe if we got a bit more help, more would get done. Asshats.Read 3 Replies   |   Add a Reply
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Posted by Forkeh on 06/16/2012:
Edit: It's *now* directly my problem.

Posted by labtech on 07/17/2012:
This seems to be a common problem. The incompetent/lazy ones get by with the bare minimum of work, and depending on their connections/the fear of management that they will sue, they just get kept on. I'm sorry you're stuck. Document everything. Hope that you can write a report to upper, upper management detailing the problems and get something done. Don't be surprised if this backfires on you and YOU get fired, though. There is NO work ethic anymore, but there are a lot of kiddies with cell phones to play with all day.

Posted by Forkeh on 10/06/2012:
Yeah it was an angry rant. I made typos. There's not much upper management to speak of. Just a General Manager and the Owner. Small business. As I said the Manager is really gun shy, but the Owner won't stand for crap. Unfortunately everyone is on their best behavior when he's around....but he's gone 90% of the time. It's good to be the king I guess.

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WORST CO-WORKERS EVER. Written by ihatemyjob12 on 05/12/2012Okay, so I work at a fast food restaurant.. Yeah, I'm sure you can already see where this is going.. I have the MOST annoying co-workers and assistant managers!! One of my co-workers has recently become a team leader and she takes things way to seriously. Things have really gone over her head.. The other day, my operator took a few team leaders to another store location to see how their drive thru runs. AS SOON AS SHE GOT BACK, she kept saying well, this store does this, this way. Its so annoying... And sometimes, I think she really thinks I'm the ONLY employee there.. Off of her. Theres this other girl.. Just a normal worker... SHE COMPLAINS SO MUCH. And she has this real whiney, raspy voice.. The other day she came up to our manager and said "can iplease go home, I have a headache" Oh. and she started crying.. But then, I saw her talking to someone for like 30 minutes. SHE IS NEVER ACTUALLY WORKING.. Shes always disappearing and its SO ANNOYING.. Bitch cries too much!!! Add a Reply
I don't understand Written by lame reason on 04/17/2012I was fired because a coworker said I poured my perfume to have another coworker have an asthma attack. Read 1 Replies   |   Add a Reply
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Posted by Anon on 04/18/2012:
Could you expand on that story a little? I also had a coworker with asthma and she could be a manipulative pain and very good at spreading rumors. No perfume, no fragrance and when we moved into a new office no carpet. Thanks to her we had to stand and walk on unfinished cement floor.

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I get it. Written by Office Drone on 03/20/2012Dearest Co-Worker, I get it. I really do. Turning forty is a terrifying milestone. Especially for a single mom. Who knows, when I go through it in fifteen years, maybe I’ll be the same way. So I get that’s why you’re doing this. Why the sudden new wardrobe. And the new hair. And the new way of speaking. (all of which I’m sure your tween age daughter just loves) Most of all I get the new group of girlfriends made up entirely of the college interns. I do get that in order to fit in with the new group, you suddenly feel the need to go out of your way to treat me like crap. I even get why, when I walked up to give you some work information, you felt the need to tell me that you couldn’t ‘take’ me to the ‘kids’ movie next weekend. That may be I could go with your daughter and her little friends. And why as I walked away, you giggled hysterically. I get it. Can’t wait until you do. I would like to mention a few things before I officially end this ‘relationship’. One, you look and sound ridiculous. You are almost forty. It comes after thirty nine. Deal with it. And not even teenagers dress like that to go to work. The interns don’t. Should have been your first clue. Two, your new ‘friends’ talk about you constantly behind your back. They roll their eyes when you try to speak like them. They take pictures of your ‘cool new outfits’ to trade and laugh over them later. You are their joke. Three, you trying to make me look or sound young or immature is weird considering I am a couple years older than your new group of friends. The movie that you can’t ‘take me to’? They are wildly excited about going to see it and have invited me to go with them. Twice. And I may go. And finally, they are interns. Unpaid, temporary interns. They’ll be gone by June. Just in time for your birthday. But I would like to remind you that you pushed this friendship. You’ve been insisting on us having a ‘relationship’ outside of work for over a year. Pressing me to go to the bars, clubs, even though it’s really not fun for me. So I’m not really devastated that this friendship is ending. I get it. Oh and P.S. speaking of clubs. The new one you’re so excited about taking everyone to? (except me of course) The one that’s so packed with so cute single guys? It’s a club for gay men. And your friends know it. Have fun! Read 2 Replies   |   Add a Reply
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Posted by Mrs_Anonymous on 03/21/2012:
Sounds like some of the people on the TV show, How Do I Look, particularly the one where the mom dressed up all in pink, complete with tu-tu. And this from a woman close to or over 40. Yikes! I like the zinger at the end, though, that she doesn't even get that the new club is actually a gay bar. ;-)

Posted by dizzblnd on 04/28/2012:
I just turned 40. I haven't changed.. I don't act a day older then 25. I have seen women in my workplace go through that midlife crisis. It is very sad to have to watch then embarrass themselves like that. I hope, for the sake of your friendship (if you still want it) that she will soon grow out of this phase, grow up (mentally and emotionally) and realize that she's being mocked, ask for your forgiveness.

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How i became a supervisor with no power Written by crazy times on 01/05/2012I took this job as a machine shop supervisor and agreed to teach and mentor this 20 something year old kid. its been nothing but nightmare. this kid is typical next generation douche. he keeps screwing off I caught him on cameras the boss dismisses it making my job difficult. because I cannot do anything with this punk. I always get a excuse for every time I see screwing off or distracting other employees standing there talking. I will walk around him and the other employee but he does not take himself to his machine like he should or would kind makes you feel he can is untouchable. my boss does not stand by me and that is not helping me do my job. so being frustrated to the point I want to punch this kid just for the sake of getting no relief. this kid has made me a fool hand fulls of times..its like the boss is afraid of letting him go..because finding a replacement not in the cards because of help or hiring expensive because of demand is high and I hear that all the time..I even considered leaving my job due to his punk ass but I have a good thing going with my work schedule where I can drop and pick up my little kid. I bet many out there have experienced this type of b s. we hired another same aged kid only older and these guys seem to want to get paid for not knowing anything or seem entitled. this kid says when he gets a raise he wants a dollar. I tried to tell him knowledge is power that is only way to get better pay. yet he shrugs it off as if I am lame. lol I recently caught him on my laptop webcam screwing off with the other employee and me working around him again..yet he says he was teaching my worker about a part of the equipment when I know that's just is b s its an excuse to get away when he is caught. frankly if my boss doesn't stand by me I am going to flip out. my boss says did you ask him what he was doing? the video is self explaining even with bad sound I said I did not need to I knew what he was doing..and that he was screwing off and there was nothing I could do about it unless I tell him to go work in a stern way. this loser told me awhile back he used to work for a toy store and explained to me how he made a fool of his boss at that job I feel he thinks I am that same boss lol these young kids nowadays are nuts Read 1 Replies   |   Add a Reply
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Posted by BonusOnus on 02/15/2012:
You need to tell your boss that you need to have supervisory power over the young kid. If the boss won't grant it to you, request that you transfer the kid to another supervisor (if there is another one). The other thing is that it's possible that the kid is connected somehow. He might be the owner's son or nephew or your manager's friend's son. Do you know enough about the young kid? Some intelligence work, such as asking how he got the job, might provide some valuable insight.

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How are the incompetent taking over? Written by constipatethebull on 11/04/2011I remember the day when at work 90% of the worker bees and almost 100% of the managers were good people. You were hired based on your skills. Everybody worked hard, did their job, and wanted to be productive and successful. If you did 120%, you were rewarded with raises and promotion. Logic and common sense ruled everything. There was no way to loose unless you were just a LOOSER. NOW, the workplace in general is run by LOOSERS. For more people than not it all just seems hopeless, with no positive light in the near future. Not just for me but others I talk to: People get hired based on who they know. 75%-100% of the worker bees are completely useless and incompetent; all they want to do is pass the buck and will do whatever it takes to make their incompetence look like someone else's fault. The people running the show are worthless bureaucrat poopie-crats . Business process is run by emotion and personal insecurity rather than logic and common sense. For the people who suck the most at their jobs, they get promoted so they can repeat the cycle. Meanwhile the good hard working honest people get more crap ran down their face than the bottom of a porta potty. This cycle just keeps getting more prevalent and worse for everyone I talk to. How the hell do we stop it? I don't understand it ever, but especially now when so many good hard working ethical people are out of work. How are these loosers getting to feed their families when so many good people are not?Read 2 Replies   |   Add a Reply
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Posted by wageslave on 11/25/2011:
The only thing that keeps me sane anymore is to focus on what I need to do. In my office the Managers and Leads are chosen like a popularity contest. Sometimes they actually make good choices that way, I think it's 50/50. I try my very best to ignore everyone. I do what I need to get done and leave. My husband always says, "Do your 8 and skate." I resisted that philosophy for years and I was miserable. Years ago they put me in the QA department. I really saw up close and personal how childish our managers and department heads were. My miserable boss was an out and out pscho at the time. I think living in a fishbowl and being judged by everyone did that to her. She had quadruple bypass surgery and somehow it normalized her. The point is don't make work your life. Find something worthy of your time. Invest all that time and energy in your family, yourself, your education, your religion/spirituality or even your friends. Remember these jokers are not worth your time or thoughts or tears! I hope things get better for you.

Posted by An on 06/26/2013:
Exactly same story.. The best way is to leave and not bend to these people, never. I left and realized how miserable I was there. I was happy with pay and my own team, but management and other offfice staff were just sucking up and incompetent. Few months later, they are with worse sales numbers as ever, which proves I made right decision.

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Somebody help me understand this... Written by HaveADamnNiceDay on 09/22/2011So, the East Coast was rocked with a little earthquake last month. Guess who has two thumbs and got hurt during? This girl. It's really interesting, because my injury seems to have changed the atmosphere in the office, and the way people *really* are is really becoming apparent. Yes, as a company, this place still treats me really well. I'm reasonably compensated, nobody is in my face all day, and if I think I want to do something one way instead of another, so long as the outcome is the same, nobody gives a crap. My injury is basically a torn piece of cartilage in my knee, which requires surgery, which is happening tomorrow morning. I'm on crutches, in the meantime. People's attitudes are really interesting now. Miss D, the payroll lady has almost adopted the "How DARE you get hurt at work! How DARE you walk on crutches! How DARE you need surgery!" attitude. She has resorted to being passive-aggressive in certain circumstances, and in some cases downright rude about my condition. I'm freakin' temporarily handicapped, for cryin' out loud! The other day, we arrived at the office at the same time. She literally bolted from her car to the front door so that she could avoid having to hold it for me. The door does not have any kind of automatic open function. I have to struggle with the door, my backpack and my crutches all at once. Some of the guys in the office are more courteous and they will actually hold doors or carry boxes for me if needed. They are *always* courteous to me. She, on the other hand, has made a point of pretending I'm not even partially disabled. Everyone today has wished me luck on my surgery tomorrow as they've all left for the day. Not her, nooooo... "I'm taking a half day, HADND" Me: "Ok, enjoy."*door closes* I suppose since she is over pretending to be nice to me I should oblige her the same. I've also been wondering if the extra attention my condition has garnered is making her angry/jealous or something. Sure, I totally *meant* to hurt myself because I totally *knew* there'd be an earthquake a month ago! Opinions?Read 10 Replies   |   Add a Reply
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Posted by SupaFlyJedi on 09/23/2011:
I think she's just jealous of the attention you are getting (I'm HR I'm IMPORTANT! I should get more attention than you!) You can't predict future events?! They must've missed putting that requirement down on the job app. This also looks like a classic selfish attitude that I left in the sandbox when I was 5. But some people grow old, they don't grow up.

Posted by frogleghorn on 09/24/2011:
As soon as something happens to her, do the same shit she was doing to you and if she gets mad, scream at her that karma is a b*tch and it hurts don't it when she done that to you. If she snitches, tell them she done the same thing to you.

Posted by wageslave on 09/28/2011:
Does your injury create extra paperwork for her? In the case of minor injuries/mishaps, our managers have told people in my office, "You can't apply for workers comp for that." They do this because they are too lazy and inept to fill out the paperwork. I believe some people get managerial jobs just to avoid real work.

Posted by Sphincter Detector on 09/28/2011:
This one's easy.. she things you're full of poop! . She thinks your're overdramatising your injury and that you're milking it. I would speculate that she is an older lady or at least has been at the company for a while, has a superior work ethic and if it wasn't for her the whole place would fall about. She probably ever took a day off in her life and in her world, you'd have to litterally barf up a lung right in front of her to convice her that you're illness is legitimate. And iven then she'd blame you for not taking better care of yourself. The way you deal with these type of people is to just not care what they think but also don't let them get away with bad behavior. Next time she runs up ahead of you, hollar at her from behind .. "EXCUSE ME, would you mind holding the door for me please!" Make her accountable for the behavior. If she gives you any wize cracks, call her on it.. 'Is there any reason why you isnist on treating me as if this injury is all in my head?" Trick is not to let her get to you. Hope your surgery went well, happy healing!

Posted by dontask on 09/28/2011:
How are you feeling HADND? Get well, take good care of yourself and don't let this Ms D rush you into a permanent injury. D stands for Dragon, does it not?

Posted by leapfrog on 09/29/2011:
for better things to come and happy new year to a certain percentile.

Posted by labtech on 10/01/2011:
Yep, she's a real gem. Just ignore her as the sub-human, mannerless oaf that she is. Now she has to do her actual job with Worker's Compensation and she resents having to WORK. My goodness, that's just too mean of you to expect her to WORK. If you want to stir the pot: maybe a nice comment with the boss in hearing range, "You know, Miss D, it's really nice of Bob and Jim to hold the door for me during this short time when I am on crutches, but I understand that you are too busy to help me out when we arrive at work at the same time." Add Big Smile. Famous quote from our own Mannerless Mary: "I HAVE manners !" Our response, "Do you keep them in a box, in your closet ?"

Posted by dontask on 10/02/2011:
Most likely her closet and that discussion could open up a different can of worms. Don't fret HADND, after a work injury I experienced almost identical treatment from a supervisor who either wouldn't or could't do the 'paperwork'. She could not find and fill out the correct forms, she omitted the most important facts and did all she could to obfuscate. Read carefully through anything Ms. D. hands you to sign. Be watchful my Ms. D. rushed at me physically, hip-checked and shoulder-checked. She also argued about physical rehab, address and distance.

Posted by Auntie AB on 10/05/2011:
I have seen this over and over again in my 54 young years (I have worked 38 years of my life so far). HR and managment types (humans?!) have fragile egos. They talk but it isn't out of their mouths. They don't believe their bodies emit odors and they believe they alone can walk on water. Truth? These HR and management types emit the worst types of odors (that penetrate the souls, hearts and minds of good co-workers) and they CAN walk on liquids...but these liquids ARE not plain water but other fluid substances that can be only recycled by Russian cosmonauts into water. Long rant short? Be courteous, smile now and when something WICKED happens to them (which it WILL, trust me)? Smile even BRIGHTER!!!

Posted by Miska on 10/11/2011:
I recently a Business Text Book for College....and in the book they talked about "Employees who are Handicapped" and their rights. Did you know that the door was supposed to be changed as soon as you came in with crutches? The law states the company MUST make handicap friendly doors and bathrooms. The fact that you got hurt at work automatically allows you to stay home and file workers compensation. These two MAJOR things uproared the company on a silent level because it reflected how poorly their environment was for handicapped employees. You should call a lawyer and possibly get a case going. She was discriminating and you had no worker's compensation. You have a real case. That is what the payroll lady was so worried about. She knows these types of laws in a work place. She was angry because she was hoping that you weren't going to use your rights and demand compensation.

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Makes me Uncomfortable.... Written by HaveADamnNiceDay on 08/11/2011So we have this guy who works for us out in the field, and he's a foreman at a few of our job sites... He comes into the office somewhat often to pick up paychecks and talk to his boss. However, lately, he's been making me feel *very* uncomfortable. I'm usually the sunny, friendly type, so I tend to greet people rather cheerfully, saying things like "Hey, what's up" or "What's shakin'". The latter greeting I made the mistake of giving to this guy, we'll call Mr. Y. Instead of saying the usual, "Oh, nothing much, how are you", I got, "Looks like you are" with a leering, greasy stare directed at my backside. I then heard him mutter under his breath, "that's nice" and at that moment I wanted to plant my foot in his groin. This was months and months ago, and I think I made the mistake of pretending not to notice him leering at me and making inappropriate comments. Since that time, I make it a point to avoid him when possible, although I'm not mean or nasty or disrespectful to him when I do have to interact with him. A month or two ago, he snuck up on me behind my desk and poked me in the ribs with both index fingers, prompting me to jump with alarm (because NOBODY touches me at work). I was seriously annoyed and very uncomfortable at this, since he was standing right in my bubble. I really wanted to run him over with my chair. I still avoid him, and I'm still polite, but my patience is wearing thin. I'm just about ready to jump all over him if he does something else that makes me uncomfortable like that. However, I've been reluctant to mention anything to the higher-ups because I've watched them turn a blind eye to inter-office conflict before, and this guy is a foreman they genuinely depend on. He's won awards for his workmanship. However, this is a serious issue and if it were anyone else, they could have a lawsuit on their hands for negligence in handling a sexual harassment complaint. I'm at a loss as to what to do. I hate having to talk to the guy, I hate looking at him and I hate doing work for him. I'm completely skeeved out. Help!Read 8 Replies   |   Add a Reply
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Posted by bookwoman on 08/12/2011:
Look him straight in eyes, hard and direct, keep your voice low, and tell him his behaviour is a form of sexual harrassment, completely unacceptable, and if he does or says one more inappropriate thing that you will file a formal complaint against him. Don't even mention HR when you say this. And don't go to them before you do this - if you even have to do this - go to them AFTER. And don't ASK HR about it, TELL them about it. Muster your inner warrior and simply tell them that this employee has been inappropriate, you have told him he is inappropriate and to stop with any comments/behaviour, and you are simply letting them know. You could even write them an email and therefore have it documented. I feel very strongly about this as I have been in your shoes, sort of, in two different jobs. As well as the Navy, back in the stone age. The last job in which I had a similar experience was my last job. Which I resigned from because of such behaviour by one certain person, who I had complained about to my management. When I submitted my letter of resignation to my manager, which simply stated that "my last day with XX company would be 30 September 2009." My manager didn't even contact me, he sent right to HR, which called me in to ask me for the reason I was leaving. I'm not suggesting you go this far, I'm just relating an experience. Anyway, HR met with me for three hours, wrote down everything I said, and when I left the company, when I RESIGNED, did not fight my unemployment claim OR my claim for benefits due to dislocated workers (the benefit that has been paying for my college education). They wanted me to just go away and not take legal action, which I know because they fought EVERYONE who they even laid off about unemployment and benefits. They also forced my whole department to attend extended sexual harrassment training after I left. Bottom line? It is not acceptable to make a fellow employee uncomfortable by taking personal liberties with them. I do believe, based on previous experience, that if you present yourself in a matter-of-fact, not overtly emotional manner, with a clear expectation that the offending behaviour will not be tolerated, you will be taken seriously, no matter how important this scumbag is in their business. If it was me, I would also contact the Department of Labor regarding your exact rights in such a situation, and for advice on how to handle it, just to be prepared. I would do this even if I had no desire to pursue action, but just to educate myself and be informed. There is no reason on earth why someone who skives you so much should be allowed to act like this in the workplace. You wouldn't take it in a store or a gym or other public place. Don't let the fact that you're an employee and need the paycheck stop you from drawing boundaries that are reasonable. Hopefully he will just leave you alone, but if he doesn't, let the warrior out.

Posted by frogleghorn on 08/13/2011:
Sue his ass for sexual harassment. That's an easy quarter of a million for you and that will also give him the embarrassment to go home and tell his wife what he's been doing to other women while on the job. What I would do is hide a tape recorder somewhere or a small video camera somewhere, catch him in the act and give it to a lawyer. Don't edit any audio or video tapes you make of him making passes at you so you can admit that into evidence. He's going to be one salty idiot after the court case is settled.

Posted by Printing Fool on 08/14/2011:
I have done this before in my much younger years, if you have a male friend who is HUGE and can look mean have him drop by. If you can know when this jerk will come by be sure to have your friend handy. Just have him walk in say "Hi babes" peck you on the cheek, make small talk. Say "I'll see you later tonight and let you know how my day went." When your "boyfriend" turns around to leave make sure he makes eye contact with this creep. Nothing threating, just eye contact. If this creep doesn't take the hint, then you'll eventually have to spell it out for him. I've done this before, and it was my real boyfriend, he was also 6'4 weighed almost 270lbs and played semi pro football. It cured that situation like a charm!

Posted by HaveADamnNiceDay on 08/15/2011:
@Bookwoman-- I also have strong feelings about this, (hence why sometimes I feel so violent about it), but I'm afraid the warrior queen seems to have vacated the premises. In her place is a frightened little girl. I'm honestly waiting for a third offense to occur so I can call him on it. Should I even be waiting? Maybe I *should* look at the dept. of labor to get a better handle on what I need to do with this situation. I love this job--it's generally low-stress, respectable pay, regular hours, agreeable people. All except this one dude (and maybe my boss, but I've decided she's a lunatic basket case anyways, and I pretty much ignore her unless she has an assignment for me). I sort of *need* this job anyways, since I'm in school, have bills, etc. and any hiccups in my paychecks will cause all kinds of stuff to go down the tubes. I can't afford to lose this job right now. I'm scared. @Froglehorn-- I'm reluctant to be litigious, and it's hard to catch him since he's in and out at irregular times. He doesn't work in the office. He's in the field. However, this IS stressing me out to the point of distraction. @ Printing Fool--- I totally like your idea, but alas, I'm married and my husband has never really been able to visit the office. It's too far out of his way, and it's not like he gets paid time off to do stuff like this. Plus, again, this dude comes in at irregular times and he's hard to catch. Besides--if I told my husband, he'd probably run his car into the ground to get here (or to whatever jobsite the dude works at) just so he could threaten to turn the guy into a pretzel if he so much as breathed in my direction. I'm trying to be discreet and deal with this on my own. My husband gets very angry when people don't maintain a respectful distance from me, or both to respect our marriage. My husband is a big, muscular, fast, super-fit guy with a 2nd degree black belt and a mean camel clutch. I don't doubt if the guy saw him (especially angry) he'd be more respectful. However, the timing is just rotten around here, and I'm pretty much on my own anyways. I may only have one ally I can really count on.... And that's one of our company VP's. He's squashed inappropriate talk towards me before, with vehemence. I hope I can trust him....

Posted by Sphincter Detector on 08/15/2011:
Be careful not to formally escalate this issue until you have made a legitimate attempt to address it directly with this man first.(Only if he is not your superior or unless you are unduly and causibly frightend of him). Takes a little courage, but it's the right thing to do, give the guy an opportunity to check his behavior and make a change before you try to get him fired or file a lawsuit against the company because the first thing a defense lawyer will do, or a company HR representative who is affraid of a lawsuit , is try to fault you for not vocalizing that there was ever a problem and possibly accuse you of exploiting and exaggerating the situation for personal gain. You do not want to be at the shitty end of that stick. Document the incidents and the dates, provide a verbal warning and document it, then provide a written email describing his behavior, include the dates of the incidents and firmly request the behavior to stop. Copy to yourself to your personal email address. If the situation persits, you are now positioned to escalate unchallenged with proper recourse.

Posted by Imbossy12 on 08/31/2011:
Like I tell people you have to understand where you work at and what comes with the environment. I once heard a girl that works at Hooters complain to her boss cause the guys were staring at her. Ok you work at hooters and your worried about that, thats why they make you wear that uniform to bring in guys. I am not saying that an environment gives certain oks but you have to ralize where you work at. You go tto be firm right from the get go so that the individual knows how you feel. Its like teasing someone cause you that gets mad, if they laugh it off usually they stop teasing you cause they know it doesnt bother you. If it continues tell your boss and see where it goes fromn there

Posted by tired of jerks at work on 02/08/2013:
just talk to him ....maybe he has no idea...just talk it out some guys dont know how a woman accepts things like that

Posted by HaveaDamnNiceDay on 06/12/2013:
@Imbossy: EXCUSE ME??? I work in an OFFICE. And no matter where a person works, that kind of thing is NOT ACCEPTABLE. However, girls who work at Hooters should not have any illusion as to why they have that job. They are there to be looked at. However, THAT IS WHY I DON'T WORK AT HOOTERS. I am a SUBJECT, NOT an object! And besides, no matter where you go, IT IS NOT OK TO RUN UP TO SOMEONE AND GRAB THEM OR TOUCH THEM WITHOUT AN INVITATION. That is a guaranteed ticket to getting a foot or fist in your eye. As for everyone else, I guess I needed to clarify that our company doesn't exactly have an HR to go to. I instead ended up going to one VP that I has watched my back in the past and looked out for me. I told him everything, starting from the leering and inappropriate comments to the times he touched me uninvited. As I explained my discomfort and fear, I also did my best to elaborate my fear of not having much control if I confronted the guy myself. Frankly, I know that if I ever did, I would have threatened him, and that wouldn't have been right either. I don't trust myself to *not* be violent when someone treats me like a thing. Anyhow, when I explained, I watched his face get stony, and start to turn redder and redder as I went on. He told me he'd handle it and that I didn't need to worry about it anymore. He apparently called the guy and tore him a new one. I have no idea what was said. The next day, that creepy dude came by my desk to level a hate stare at me when he handed me his timesheet (which was completely unnecessary, since we have a bin for those, and he just did it to get close). I know he was just trying to intimidate me, but it sort of worked. I kept a knife in my pocket at the ready for a few months and wouldn't go into the warehouse alone. I did tell the VP about that but I said that was all else the creep did. He hasn't bothered me since, but I know he still hates me. Frankly, IDGAF. He's never touched me since, thank goodness. If he ever did, I think instead of a fist or a foot he'd get my knife in his eye. Yes, I'm ok with being arrested after that. I have tolerated this kind of BS long enough.

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Incompetent AND Crazy! Written by seriouslystressed on 08/09/2011I have a coworker who was hired solely because of who she knows. We just happened to be the unlucky department with an open position. From day one she was over the top, unteachable, and completely disrespectful to us and how our department was run. She constantly felt the need to put me in my place, as it appears she couldn't handle a younger coworker who could run circles around her. We went through formal channels after it became unbearable...and nothing happened. We were basically told to deal with it. And when new management came in and she showed her crazy and her incompetence...nothing happened. She full on verbally attacked me in front of our entire department...and nothing happened. She couldn't complete the most basic of tasks and became overwhelmed with a less than normal workload...and we had to pick up the slack. After absolutely LOSING IT on our boss and continually acting like a child (this woman is beyond middle-aged), she is finally being held accountable. And what does she do? She is now having a family member harass my coworkers. Take your crazy somewhere else, you incompetent nutjob!!!Read 4 Replies   |   Add a Reply
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Posted by Sphincter Detector on 08/10/2011:
You hit the nail right on the head and there in lies the problem…if the woman is indeed a ‘nutjob’, it’s very hard to fire or terminate on that basis. Management may have been well aware of this woman’s personality and has observed her theatrics but needed time to document the incidents and be able to demonstrate a pattern of behavior in order to prove she is disruptive enough to be terminated ‘with cause’. These days it’s very difficult to terminate for plain old insubordination or for having an attitude problem. The only pure way to terminate without liability is to find a way to terminate based on performance( or lack of), which takes a few months to demonstrate properly which is why she got away with her behavior for so long. Otherwise the company open themselves up to a potential discrimination /wrongful dismissal lawsuit.

Posted by HaveADamnNiceDAy on 08/10/2011:
I don't know, it really depends on the employer, SD... Some will terminate for gross misconduct. Since the nutjob knows people in the company, they may be reluctant to get rid of her because they're simply cowards. To the poster: I totally feel for you and I'm sorry you have to endure such a basket case! May the nutjob gather enough rope to hang themselves and relieve you of your current miseries!

Posted by frogleghorn on 08/10/2011:
She sounded like my old greezy looking coworker of mine and when we told hire ups about her, they didn't want to believe us. Soon corporate found out about her and after four years of putting up with her, she's gone.

Posted by constipatethebull on 11/04/2011:
At least the manager is beyond middle age. Hold out until she retires or croaks. That's what I am waiting on at my work; waiting for all the poopie-crats in their 50s and 60s to die or retire so the good people in their 30s and 40s can take over the place. here here!

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Weird coworker and nasty office Written by Bgirl on 07/26/2011Anyone out there have this problem? This coworker of mine is foul. His office stinks and one day when he wasn't in, the other staff went into his office to look for work he was supposed to have done - and that's another rant.) What we found sickened and amazed us. There were dirty dishes, half filled coffee cups, open packages of food all over the place - even under the desk on the floor. There were huge black garbage bags in there filled with individual trash bags (kitchen trash can size) filled with garbage. And the trash can was overflowing. Most of it was food - fast food bags, lunch meat, etc. The mini fridge in his office was also filled with old nasty food. Crumbs and roaches all over the place. He's been here for a year. That's a year's worth of garbage in their. Read 4 Replies   |   Add a Reply
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Posted by econobiker on 07/27/2011:
Sounds like you have an office horder...

Posted by Bgirl on 07/28/2011:
It's confirmed. He must be a hoarder - he was told to clean the office immediately. He is currently running up and down the stairs and throwing his things, garbage and all, into his car. He's actually taking his garbage home, I guess.

Posted by Sphincter Detector on 07/28/2011:
If there were other items collecting in there rather than just garbage, I'd say he was a hoarder. However, it seems to me he might just be plain old fashioned dirty. Some people are regular slobs, too lazy to take out the garbage, too lazy to bend over and pick something up off the floor. The boss should be shown this mess and he should be directed to HR and referred for councilling or put on notice. Clean up or get out.

Posted by frogleghorn on 07/29/2011:
Wasn't he the least bit embarrassed about the filth in his office, that trifling bastard? Not only was his office dirty and he hordes junk, I bet he stinks real bad too.

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Backstabbing ladder climber Written by no weapon former against me- on 07/09/2011I started a job a month ago, new co-worker, same title, he started in right away with the mind games, his wife is a director in her company, he was hired before me, he is higher up on the organizational chart. I overlooked things, until management started to heavily promote him, at the meetings, slapping him on the back.the other thing is he is a local person, I had to relocate. He got in with the right leadership, all work is given to him. I am pretty much ignored. I have taken this to our boss, who tries to get the other managers to let me play, but my co-worker is now in the circle of trust.I am barely acknowledged. I am female, he is male. We both have 90 days to show and prove. I got so tired of his bullying remarks,"hey trouble" etc, that I created a document to show that I have something to offer,since I'm not given work to show what I can do. I am just collection a paycheck, until, what they try to can me in 90 days. Is there any advice?Read 3 Replies   |   Add a Reply
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Posted by frogleghorn on 07/11/2011:
That's happened at one of my previous jobs where they sat there promoting folks that had no god d*MN business promoting. What we did is when he/she gave an order and we knew it was not protocol but they sat there beating their breasts that it was their way or the highway and if another higher up seen we were doing something we weren't, we'd blame the supervisor that they shouldn't have promoted because they told us to. We do reverse psychology on higher ups that knew they had no business promoting someone by showing them their flaws and what they've done wasn't right.

Posted by labtech on 07/12/2011:
I am so sorry to tell you that you can't fight this. He has all the advantages. He has a spouse in management. She's trained him on the corporate politics, so he knows all the right people to kiss up to. That will always be more important. You need to fix up your resume, start looking for work right away, and work the job until they fire you. Try to stick it out until you can collect unemployment. Maybe you could try to find a special project to work on to delay your departure, something he can't do (or isn't willing to spend the time on to complete). It isn't fair. It isn't right. It's just the way the working world is today. And, unfortunately - complaining about it makes you a bigger target for firing.

Posted by Sphincter Detector on 07/15/2011:
Is it a competition between you and him, ie) at the end of 90 days are they going to chose one of you and let the other one go? If so, then he’s got you beat, facts o’life. Have you ever heard the term ‘fit’? Employers are placing equal importance these days a candidate’s personability and congeniality in order to determine if they will ‘fit’ in with the office dynamics. “ Joe Schmoozzer’s”got you beat, and it’s not because you’re a girl, it’s because he’s more confident, personable and extroverted and people are highly influenced by these types of personalities and management is no exception, they get sucked in just as easily. But don’t despair, these guys are often found selling cars later in life , sporting a beer paunch and a really bad combed over toupee because bullsh** only gets you so far in life. But, if it’s not a competition, try to develop your own office rapport both with him and others., start being miss friendly, bring in donuts just because.., ask the girls out for lunch, bring your boss a Crapachino out of the blue ..Try to fit in.

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There is a God? Written by BonusOnus on 06/22/2011I have this coworker. He's not a developer but an IT person, named "R". On an H1B visa from India. He was hired because he was friends with a higher up, not because of his skills. Anyway, he manages up to his superiors but to us (his customers) or anyone else, he's rude, unhelpful, and curt. Basically, if you ask him for help on the VMWare server, he will respond by suggesting a solution, and then stating that you are an idiot and that you are wasting his time when he is so busy with all these other things he's doing. I can tolerate him being curt if he was really preoccupied with work but he is lazy. He only works hard if a higher up gives him an important, time-sensitive task. I have overheard him tell his manager that he wouldn't work on requests given my developers, no matter how important they were, because he didn't feel like doing them. How professional. He pissed off so many people and he didn't care because he thought he was protected by his friend in upper management. Well, there was a re-organization. His friend left the company for another job. "R" was unprotected and got axed soon afterwards. He tried following his friend to a new job but the new company doesn't sponsor H1Bs. So "R" scrambled for another job that would transfer his H1B sponsorship. But he burned bridges at my company and a few of my coworkers gave him bad references thru back channels (after all, this is a small valley). He couldn't find work within 60 days. Guess what? He has to go back to India now because he can't get a new sponsor for his H1B. So last I heard, he was packing and moving back to India. I guess sometimes you get what you deserve.Read 5 Replies   |   Add a Reply
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Posted by foz on 07/09/2011:
what we learn from this article no matter the he person is higher or even he know some one upper he or she must treat other ppl in good way at work and be a helpful so it will come back in good way, really nothing in this life is going for ever.

Posted by Printing Fool on 07/12/2011:
Yes, there is a GOD! He got his just deserts! I just love to see cosmic justice in action, what goes around comes around, it might be a big circle, but circle it will.

Posted by wageslave on 10/29/2011:
I am not anti-Indian but nearly every gas station where I live is owned by Indians. Everyone working for them is Indian. The employees haven't been here long and I just wonder if everyone is here legally.

Posted by constipatethebull on 11/04/2011:
Watch out next time you call tech support, he will be on the other end. Glad he is our of our country anyway. There are too many good people with no job right not for ANY incompetence from ANYONE to be tolerated. That's spoken from the logical generation which I guess we have lost our power in the workplace now too so what do I know!?

Posted by wageslave on 11/09/2011:
Bonus there is both God and Karma. When I was younger if people would do me wrong I would tear into them, now I just sit around and wait.

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