I worked for about five years for the same company in retail. On my very first shift, I was struggling to get all of my duties done as I was new. My manager said to me, ‘Well, I guess you’ll be working late then.’ She and 5 other co-workers left the store. I stayed back nearly two hours to complete duties that I had little idea how to do, with no one to ask. The next week my manager ripped into me about how bad my work was that night. I later found out it was against company policy for a manager to leave me in that position.
All my co-workers seemed really cliquey, and didn’t talk to me unless I spoke to them. One girl would usually start whispering to the others when I entered the room or walk past her. I had to call in sick one morning because I had glandular fever, and she began yelling at me, and saying I had to come in for the set up.
For a time, I tried to make a lot more effort. I wondered if I had come across as rude somehow, and rubbed them up the wrong way. Each morning, I would pretend I had to go get something from where they were working and chatting so I would have the opportunity to say hello. They seemed pleasant when I did this, but right after our greeting, they went straight back to their conversation.
The manager invited me to a work dinner, and I was excited because it seemed like my efforts to get to know the team was paying off. When I arrived at the dinner, I sat next to one girl and we happily chatted for a few minutes, before another girl arrived, sat next to me on the other side and joined in the conversation. This lasted a few minutes before the conversation became purely about things they had done together, and it got to the point where I could no longer contribute or feel interested in talking to them. This lasted for nearly half an hour before we ordered out food. I felt rather foolish sitting in silence while everyone at the table was chatting to one another. After this, I switched seats with one of the girls, feeling as though I would have a better chance at conversation with somebody else. The guy I tried to talk to after this was not interested in chatting, and would respond to my questions with one word answers. It was such a relief to go home that night. On Facebook, one of the girls had posted a status about what a great night it was, and tagged literally everyone at the dinner except me.
I didn’t get invited to another work dinner; not that I would have really wanted to go anyway. They used the work whiteboard to write down who was bringing what dish to a work party. Only me and another girl renowned for not working hard were not invited.
One manager who was often given the task of giving me constructive feedback would often tell me that the other managers thought I was really quiet and stand-offish. I felt very hurt by these comments. How did they not realise I was making every attempt to get along with my co-workers? This manager would also say, ‘Everyone here has been complaining about you!’ She never specified which co-workers, or what they were complaining about.
On my last shift, a couple of co-workers wished me well and hugged me. A few months later on Facebook, I saw another girl had been given a cake and a huge card on her last day. She had worked there six months. I had worked there for five years. That really annoyed me.
I’m annoyed at myself for not moving on from this job quicker, and it’s been on my mind lately. I should have left the job after the first shift, but I thought if I stuck it out, it would get better. It never did. Anybody else have a similar experience?Add a Reply
Recently--by that I mean May of 2014--I landed a job at a relatively well-to-do NOC. It is very low-visibility and offers four day work-weeks. Call volume is almost non-existent and as the rule tends to fly with NOCs, when nothing happens, you are doing your job perfectly.
Keep in mind I had just left a nightmare job doing tech-ops for a gigantic miserable corporation filled with half-witted middle management and close to 70 phone calls a day, from end users and 'others' alike. Let me also state that I had to commute by train from a ghetto in Chicago to the financial district, and I was being paid roughly $17,000 less than I am now.
Let's fast forward. I love my boss, and I love my boss's boss. They both work by example, have our backs, and are readily available to help us through anything be it personal or technical. I have never had such a luxury. My team consists of 7 people, and since one person can run the NOC we really only see our colleagues maybe twice a week for a few hours.
I never in my wildest dreams would've found that to be an eternity of atrocious madness until I found myself working next to a guy my age (32) who has a double master's in business (he enjoys telling people this) and is an immigrant from Bulgaria. He enjoys making fun of 'Murica which I personally don't mind as I am native to the UK. Anyway, he was the first person charged with training me in. I was with him clock-in to clock-out for two weeks, learning about how he hates his wife, how he loves money, wants more money, doesn't get enough money, hates his job (my job, our job), and hates that he doesn't have enough to do.
Realizing he was toxic within seconds I reasonably shut my mouth and simply stared at him as if waiting for the punchline (you should try it), he eventually said "I'm going to start my own business, maybe trading, I want to be my own boss man, have millions." That's when I laughed as authentically as my lying arse could. He took it well. Nevertheless, it persisted, badly. He miscalculated his income and ended up not being able to pay his federal taxes because his dead-beat wife spent 3 grand to go to London to attend a "success seminar" only to return bewildered and none the wiser (he and her are the PERFECT suckers, naive as a newborn.)
He actually asked me for money that day. A week and a half after I started. Before I received my first paycheck. I asked if he was joking and he said he wasn't, that his wife spent all his money and now he can't afford to send his son to daycare (his wife has no job, why does he send his son to daycare?) I told him absolutely not, and after hours of listening to him cry about his misfortunes and how the job I am trying to enjoy is the cause of it all he hit rock bottom--he got scammed into a ponzi scheme. I was the one who alerted him of it because like the naive dotard he is, he tried to scam ME into it. He next got a part time job at Uber where he would come to work talking about all these "irritating b*tches whining about everything and only caring about money." I saw my opening and shot true, "Wow that sounds identical to the hopeless guy who sits next to me at work!" Surprisingly, he laughed.
I should also add that he comes in late, sometimes up to two hours, and leaves early every day. VPNs in on his phone and clocks in and out so his punches appear legit. He hates himself and this job that much apparently. I didn't rat on him, I don't care because I've successfully trained my brain into mentally transforming him into an irrelevant cartoon-like essence that just happens to be within proximity and emits sounds now and again. Anyway he finally had enough money to pay his taxes and guess what he does? He spends 1500 dollars on a gigantic cappuccino machine and had to file for an extension, followed by asking me again for money.
After another hilarious rejection he began trying to sell me things. Shoes (his son's shoes, I don't have a child), a bondi-blue iMac mouse he said was a collector's item that I could "flip" for "thousands" (why didn't he?) A broken tablet that has a huge crack on it and doesn't appear to have functioning internet capabilities, covered in oil stains--he tried to sell me that one for two hundred dollars. What prompted me to actually compose this was today he asked if I'd like a cheap place to live close to work, which of course I am, and he tried to sell me his guest room, in his house, with his family occupying it. He somehow is my age, has a double masters in business, and has accumulated all the stupidity possible in a human being while I have been present on this rotting earth the same amount of time but only have a simple B.S and a bit of common sense. I love my job but he makes the two days I see him absolutely dreadful unless I tune him out completely.
I am not lying, he tried to sell me his son's shoes. His current endeavor is day-trading on his craiglist-bought-laptop. Before he left today he asked if I would "give" him my Microsoft Windows license and he would "give" me something worth as much in return. I said "what this time? Half of a rotary phone? F*ck off."
For the very first time, he very much f*cked off. I couldn't think as slow as this train wreck if I tried, but I just cannot take my eyes away from the tragedy that is his toxic co-worker complex. Oh well, maybe this will be fun to read for someone.Add a Reply
She sits across from me and her computer screen covers her mouth from my angle- SO I never see her mouth moving, but it never stops talking. She thinks outloud, she talks her way through every piece of data entry: "Now move the mouse over here, push this little square, and that pops up, and now where do I go? Oh, here is the little button, and then hit tab..............."
WHEN her computer doesn't go fast enough, she BANGS KEYS.
WHEN she opens the mail every day and stamps everything "RECEIVED (date)", she might as well be playing the drums. If a letter is erroneously returned and she knows it, she still stamps it- rendering it impossible to slip back into the mail box.
WHEN we received our first Christmas card of the year, she stapled a slip of paper to the front, covering the pretty snowflake-- The paper had a list of all the office staff, and a space for each to initial that we've read the card. Inside, it said "Merry Christmas" and was signed by our insurance rep.
WHEN she doesn't understand how to do something, she immediately apologizes for "being such an idiot, and so stupid", and immediately acts super defensive as you try to explain the answer.
IT TAKES HER DAYS to return a short list of phone calls, but she gets extremely defensive if you ask if she's called someone back, and never lets you take on any of the call-backs, insulted you're moving in on her job.
NO ONE OVERSEES HER WORK- but I am directly affected by the quality of it.
(I'm only beginning)
I have to share an office with the worst lady ever!! She throws out my work, damages it, has tantrums at her desk where she throws her stuff around, sent me an email with job ads. Almost the whole office has issues with her. I went to 5 different people in management all did nothing and made me have mediation with her and she denied everything but suggested I be removed from my position. Managemnt and her both attacked me and I have been told to move offices and was also told off. She was told that im sure no one thinks that about you. But only becuse she flirts with mangemnt and buys them gifts and kisses ass. And she has done this to 3 others who were in my position before.Add a Reply
I have been working for a month at this job and I absolutely hate it. I have worked all manner of jobs and never had a problem with them unless it involved heavy manual labor since I'm a skinny girl with no muscle mass. My best friend owns the company and needed someone to handle his accounts receivables, I needed a job so I accepted. The salary and hours are great but the people I work with are so incompetent that it drives me crazy. I work for a transportation brokerage firm and there are 3 separate but interrelated companies; one for trucks/rail, one for air freight, and the third for maritime freight. My friend owns the division that is in charge of trucks/rail and his business partner owns the other two divisions. Immediately after being hired it was decided I would do accounts receivable for all 3 companies. I was fine with this, until I realized that 2 of the companies already have their own account receivable already set up. That wouldn't be a huge problem on it's own except that they have 4 people doing one job. One person enters the checks into the computer, a different person actually looks up the invoices and related paperwork when needed, a third person is in charge of submitting invoices and filing them away, and then there is the fourth person who is in charge of talking to our customers and helps supervise the other 3 people. All of these people have normal jobs with the company as well so oftentimes my requests for help with things are just set aside and forgotten about, so I have to ask several times to get anything done.
Just as an example, this happens several times a day to me when I am at work: Quickbooks will show that there is an account that owes us several thousand dollars and is months past due. I call the company to remind them that there is an outstanding invoice and ask when they will be remitting payment to settle the outstanding debt. The company becomes irate telling me how they already sent us a check and the check was cashed or that it was paid via wire transfer. I then have to go Person #1 and ask them why the payment was never entered into the system. They then ask Person #2 to find the receipt or check stub who then gives it to Person #3 to decide if that was what was needed. If it is, they will then give it to Person #4 to be entered into the computer system or it is given back to Person #1 so that the proper paperwork can be found. After all that, I am then given the paperwork so I can call the company back and straighten everything out with them.
This is in addition to the many accounts that are listed that are currently in bankruptcy court, or the accounts that have already been closed out by the company owners but were never updated, or the accounts that are waiting on paperwork to authorize payment but the paperwork was lost long ago and so they will never pay. Every single day I mark off the same accounts and tell my bosses to take them out of the system, each time they say they will and sure enough a week later everything is still exactly the same.
I also work next to a girl who spends half her day on Facebook and texting her friends while my boss constantly yells at her to do work. All I hear all day is him asking if she has gotten this or that completed and her saying that she is too busy to be able to do everything that she is supposed to do. I have offered to help multiple times but I'm not allowed because the girl thinks I will steal her job if I know how to do it.
I've never had a job where I wasn't allowed to help out and make things more efficient and better for everyone just because of insecurity and jealousy. I've also never had a job where the bosses were so concerned about not giving an employee too much work at once that they end up becoming completely inefficient. When I asked today if I could just have full access to accounts receivable and just do everything on my own, I was told I would be getting an assistant soon to do that for me. Except I don't need an assistant, I just need to be able to get things done.
I told my boss I wanted a new job and he promised me that I'll be getting a big raise soon and that basically he will compensate me monetarily for staying. At least I am very good at my job which is why my boss is willing to pay me a lot more just so I can stay; I've already collected almost a half million dollars in revenue that was owed between all 3 companies and have managed to get the books of 2 of the companies balanced out.
I just wish my coworkers weren't so incompetent. They're very nice people, they just need to understand that instead of having everyone help it's better to just leave one person in charge. It would also really help if they understood record keeping as well. I just hate that literally half of each work day is spent fixing the mistakes of others. It all just seems so very inefficient and it's very frustrating on top of that.
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Why would you take someone who flunked out of art school and put them in charge of payroll? That really shows a stick to it ness when she attempted college for two semesters and one month at art school that ended up with one crappg painting that we all get to stare at? Oh that's right she shows major cleavage is probably screwing one of the bosses. She lost a stapler and spent half an hour roaming the halls accusing everyone of stealing it -- did she check her own purse?Add a Reply
15 years in private sector and 15 years in public sector. I am intelligent, w/advanced degree, thin, well dressed and reasonably attractive. I am DONE with women in the workplace. It pains me to say it since I grew up in the 60s and 70s and was a feninist. I am sick of their, whining, jealousy, stupidity, unprofessionalism, backstabbing, etc. Give me a male, even if he is a sexist.Read 2 Replies | Add a ReplyComments:Close Replies
I see. Interesting post. Hmmm, I agree to an extent but however in most cases, it is funny to me how some people can make comments concerning other people in work situations as though they are the victims in the midst of the situations and are actually the very culprits who causes hostility, chaos and havoc in job environments with lies, jealousy and hate. Then sit back and take no responsibility for it...Sad and Miserable people is what they are called, because happy people who are content with their lives do not constantly keep up nonsense and BS on jobs and then blame it on other people...
Not sure I really understand your complaint .... of course it was as general statement without any facts. In fact it was an "opinion" that the females were jealous. What did they say, when did they say it? Have you ever been around a man who said a derogatory comment about ANY other person in the office, well I have, and it was negative, so was he "jealous" possibly not but he did mean to insinuate that that person did not know what they were doing, so that is possibly a way to make them more superior or was the statement the truth? So, my point is that both male and females in the office make "comments" about co-workers, most of the time behind their backs, and believe me I have a lot of complaints about my co-workers, but I am not naive to think that what I am saying about them, they are probably saying the same about me. The main issue is that the statements should be work related and if they are justified then why is the supervisor not addressing the issues? In general, there is so much "favoritism" in a work place and do we not all say it is who you know? Well if those two statements are true then possibly your co-workers are not jealous but actually stating facts. Obviously, you do not think very highly of these people and are making judgments, what motivates your statements?
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My friend and I ran for union office last year because the old president never came to work. No communication came from the union and most people felt they were paying for nothing. We won and the old president and his friends have made my life a living hell since. During our first officers meeting 2 of his friends yelled at us for running. They insisted that we sign off on the books for our tax returns without an audit. The other officers were so nasty they refused to give us grievance forms or letterhead. When I printed papers I was working on they would grab them and look at them.
The old president sent out letters to our national office saying how incompetent we are. 1 of the current officer sent out a letter maligning us but it had so many spelling mistakes in it, it was laughable. She was one of the 2 officers who yelled at us. These 2 sweethearts have refused to represent anyone or give their time to any project. I am tired of fighting these idiots. They are tearing this Union apart and no one seems to care.Read 1 Replies | Add a ReplyComments:Close Replies
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I know what it feels like to be let down by a local that is supposed to represent you. Unfortunately years ago some dunderheads took this particular local private and it became their own personal club. Long ago both sides ignored the importance of the Weingarten Rights, they reduced themselves to a so/so bargaining unit and would only investigate anti union actions. Would not help or represent me while i was on industrial and short time disability. Their reasoning: My automatic union dues withdrawal had stopped during work injury pay. Had no control over that. Parted ways with them years ago.
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I just started my job 3 months ago. At first everything was great. Good money, close to home...my future looked bright. Until the co-worker from hell decided she wanted to make my life miserable. Every day she talks to me like I'm an idiot and double checks everything I do. I have been trying to tolerate her, but that was until yesterday. I sat down with my boss and he advised that she told him I don't know what I'm doing, when in fact I've been doing my job just fine. I know more about computer programs than this old bitch does. For goodness sakes, they use Corel Word Perfect which is older than dirt!!!!!!! I'm tired of her and tired of her shit. I'll be damned if I lose my job over her!!!Read 1 Replies | Add a ReplyComments:Close Replies
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I found slashing tires a great eye opener..they kind of get the hint that if someone goes to that extreme all sort of things can happen from there...stand your ground
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Okay, so I work in a restaurant. My boss really isn't so bad. He's kind of a nice guy. He works hard. My only real complaint is that he won't stand up to problem employees, because we've had ex employees sue in the past; he's a bit gun shy with the firing.
This is a problem because we have a handful of absolutely incompetent workers. I hate it. These people can't do the simplest damned task. It's not like their jobs are hard; no brain power required to mop a floor. It's not like their shifts are long, maybe 5 hours? But I've spent the last two years at this damned job cleaning up their messes. It's gotten even worse since I was promoted to supervisor, because it's not directly my problem. One of them has a real problem with female authority (I'm a woman). I get so much freakin' lip from that girl, it's ridiculous. Don't start cursing under your breath about how much of a bitch I am (yes I can hear you) when I'm just telling you to do your job! You don't get paid to stand around. You work in a restaurant, you have to clean, get over it! Jesus.
I've absolutely had it with this damned job, and my useless crew. Where are all the people who want a job and put in at least a minimalist effort? I know minimum wage sucks for the crew, but damn, what happened to work ethic? You take a job, you do your job, regardless of what you're paid. Don't like it, quit!!!!!!!!!!!
And oh jeeze, some of my....er...equals I guess you'd call them? Other supervisors. Talk about leading by example. All day standing around doing nothing, when you could be helping with something. Playing with your phone? Give me a break! And then you have the audacity to chew me out, for things that didn't get done on my shift (I close almost every shift), are you really serious? I'm sorry, even when my crew isn't being incompetent, are we really supposed to get all of the food prep and cleaning done, as well as work through the busiest parts of the day....really? What exactly is it that your opening crew does, besides set up and serve the few customers that trickle in?
Maybe if we got a bit more help, more would get done. Asshats.Read 3 Replies | Add a ReplyComments:Close Replies
Edit: It's *now* directly my problem.
This seems to be a common problem. The incompetent/lazy ones get by with the bare minimum of work, and depending on their connections/the fear of management that they will sue, they just get kept on. I'm sorry you're stuck. Document everything. Hope that you can write a report to upper, upper management detailing the problems and get something done. Don't be surprised if this backfires on you and YOU get fired, though. There is NO work ethic anymore, but there are a lot of kiddies with cell phones to play with all day.
Yeah it was an angry rant. I made typos. There's not much upper management to speak of. Just a General Manager and the Owner. Small business. As I said the Manager is really gun shy, but the Owner won't stand for crap. Unfortunately everyone is on their best behavior when he's around....but he's gone 90% of the time. It's good to be the king I guess.
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